As explained in the chapter called ‘The big comedy show of humanity’, an orgasm is an accelerated ignition of energy. Concentration and friction cause the pressure of energy from the masculine polarity to build up and heat up until it ultimately spontaneously ‘ignites’ to a climax. But the opposite effect, which I call a cold orgasm, can also happen. To understand how this can happen, you need to know how the principle of cooling works in, for example, a fridge, freezer, or air conditioning unit.

The cooling happens in a closed duct system containing a gas. As the name says, the compressor compresses the gas until it liquefies but, during this process, the gas also heats up. This is not what you want in a cooling device so this gas first flows through a cooling system to cool it down to room temperature – this is the grill you see at the back of your fridge. The gas then flows through an expansion valve, which reduces the pressure and ensures that the liquid evaporates into a gas again, resulting in the contrary effect: cooling. This cold gas then flows through another duct system, but this time inside the fridge where it reduces the temperature. A compressor sucks in the gas at one side and pushes it out the other side, resulting in continuous circulation within the closed duct system.

When building up an orgasm, we do exactly the same thing as the compressor – concentration compresses the energy and heats it, but you can also achieve the opposite and thus cooling effect. Why don't you try the following experiment to get to know yourself a bit better, although it does require some level of self-control.
Build up to an orgasm but then try to hold it off just before the climax. Relax and breathe slowly. Now you draw your attention away from your sexual act by focusing on something different – on your breathing, by listening to music or to the sounds you hear around you. First, like a compressor in a cooling system, you compacted all your energy and now you draw your attention away from it so the energy relaxes and we achieve the same effect as in the fridge: you will start to feel cold shivers running through your body. This is what I call a cold orgasm.

But you don't have to go ‘all the way’ to experience a cold orgasm. Suppose you're at work and it's time for your lunch break. As it happens, there are some nice people visiting and the conversation takes an erotic turn, some saucy jokes are made and you start to feel quite aroused. But then the lunch break ends, you have to get back to work, and you focus your mind back on what you were doing before lunch. During the sociable get-together, you compressed your energy and by focusing on your work again, you release your attention from this energy and its moment of relaxation will give you cold shivers through your body.

Why does an orgasm feel so good?

Imagine a cold, winter's day, a cloudy sky, the drizzling rain, and you feel utterly depressed. Suddenly, a heatwave hits from the south, the wind blows the clouds away and the sun is shining with a temperature of 25 degrees and a nice, warm breeze. All you want to do is take off your winter clothes and walk around in just a T-shirt. But even before you have taken off your thick coat, the heatwave has passed and the cold weather has returned.

As you see, there's nothing magical about life, life is a pure technical happening. So how have we come to a point where we have turned so much beauty and warm feelings into a terrible taboo and shame? Where men and women have turned against each other and we destroyed our own happiness? And worst of all, perhaps, is that there are so many universities around the world where sexologists, physicians and surgeons are trained to become expert professionals who don't know anything about this. Religions worshipping an imaginary God but don't even understand the essential basics of life, and even if they once had this knowledge, they abused it to rule mankind. Everybody suppresses their own source of energy or lets it determine their lives. So is it any wonder that energy has become such a challenging issue in our society, and that it comes at such a cost? As within, so without.